Etiquette starts at home and instilling good manners in children is one of the greatest gifts you can give them! So how does one define proper etiquette? It’s less about formal rules and more a foundation of kindness, graciousness, and respect that will help children shine as their brightest selves. A fabulous place to start is family dinners – children as young as toddlers love engaging with their family over a delicious meal, so what better setting than around the table to teach them about the basics!  

Time, patience, and consistency are key when teaching children about manners. We still remind our boys of proper table manners and waiting their turn to speak, which can be challenging when they have something they truly want to share! Just like anything else in life though, it takes lots of practice. And so, here are my list of must-know manners to teach little ones. 

• Hold silverware properly, whether that is continental or European style.
• Ask for foods to be passed instead of reaching for them.
• Place your napkin in your lap as soon as you sit down and use it during the meal to gently wipe your mouth (no sleeves please!).
• Practice quiet, closed-mouth chewing.
• No elbows on the table.
• Make eye contact when speaking to someone or being introduced.
• Always say please and thank you, and “May I please” when making a request.
• Show kindness and respect towards others – if children learn anything about etiquette this is it! 
• Address adults as “Mr. and Mrs.” There are exceptions of course for family or very close friends who have said its ok to address them by their first name. 
• Write a thank you note whenever you receive a gift.
• Be inclusive and treat others the way you wish to be treated.
• Cover your mouth when coughing or sneezing.
• Knock on doors before entering.
• Be patient, wait your turn, and avoid interrupting when someone else is speaking.
• Don’t point or stare at others.
• Golden rule: if you don’t have something nice to say then don’t say anything at all! 
• Hold the door open for others.
• Offer to help when you can, especially those in need.